Trial and error approach
Brainstorming and open-ended activities
Produce real, but creative, products
Original and unique approaches to problem solving
Self-directed learningAbstract Sequentials prefer: Lecture and reading
Follow traditional procedures
Are respected for intellectual ability
1. INFPs want to help others yet they resist human contact.
INFPs are true idealists who want to make the world a better and more compassionate place. They are highly empathetic individuals who have the capacity for deep caring. Although they are very interested in helping others, they can also be extremely reserved and private. As introverts, they need a lot of alone time to recharge, as social interactions can be draining.
2. They’re both curious and shy.
INFPs have a strong Extroverted Intuition (Ne) function which makes them enjoy exploring new ideas and possibilities. They are very curious when it comes to learning about the world, including learning about human nature and different cultures. However, at the same time, they can be shy and hesitant to open themselves up to people who they aren’t familiar with. This is because INFPs are conscientious, need time to reflect, and do not like to engage in shallow conversations. They take their encounters quite personally and are highly sensitive, so they may be wary about letting just anyone into their lives.
3. INFPs can be extremely determined or apathetic.
INFPs seem to run on an on-off switch. They can either be extremely obsessive about something or completely indifferent. That’s because Fi is their primary driver, so they are motivated by what feels right. So, if an INFP comes across something that excites them, they can become extremely passionate, even neglecting basic needs such as sleep in their pursuit. Conversely, it can be very difficult for INFPs to find any motivation to finish a task or partake in a discussion if it doesn’t spark their interest.
4. They can be easygoing or stubborn.
INFPs are generally easygoing and flexible, especially when it comes to making everyday decisions. They also like to entertain different ideas and possibilities, thanks to their auxiliary Ne function, and are open to looking at things from many perspectives. However, INFPs have strong personal values due to their Fi and are reluctant to compromise them. They stand their ground and do not easily surrender in the face of adversity. For instance, INFPs believe in staying true to themselves so they resist giving up their individuality and values in order to conform, be part of a clique, and/or please others. They might get bullied for choosing to be a round peg in a square hole, but they wouldn’t have it any other way.
5. INFPs are perfectionists but can also be negligent.
INFPs have high standards for themselves and their work, and they can become perfectionists. For instance, they might reread an email several times before hitting send. At the same time, as Intuitives, INFPs prefer to focus on the big picture rather than spend time working out the details of something. Likewise, sometimes they get lost in their own idealism and neglect more practical matters.
6. They’re unconventional and quirky, but also traditional.
INFPs are highly individualistic people who break free from the status quo. They choose their own unique pathway rather than doing what society expects of them. At the same time, INFPs can be traditional due to their strong values and sense of nostalgia. They are extremely loyal and have clear beliefs about right and wrong. They also attach meaning to things from the past because of their Introverted Sensing (Si) function, so it’s not unusual for INFPs to hold on to childhood toys, treasured collections, or family memorabilia.
7. INFPs want to be autonomous and free, but also have stability and order.
INFPs value autonomy and prefer to do things freely without any impediments. They like to be creative, expressive, and explore new things without being burdened by repetitive tasks and strict orders. However, at the same time, they are drawn to their inferior Extroverted Thinking (Te) function and desire some sort of stability and structure in their lives—or else things may get a little too chaotic. INFPs may find their life to be quite disorganized when they are being carried away by their imagination; they need something to ground them in reality.
8. They feel happy and sad at the same time.
INFPs feel deeply and experience a wide breadth of emotions. They can vividly recreate experiences and feelings through their imagination. They may even experience several emotions simultaneously, such as feeling both pleasant and melancholy.
9. INFPs want the ideal partner, but may find themselves drawn to toxic relationships.
When it comes to relationships, INFPs may find themselves falling into one of two traps: they struggle to find their princess or prince charming, or end up in a toxic relationship. Because they are highly idealistic, INFPs may have unrealistic expectations when it comes to dating. At the same time, they are crusaders who want to save others. In doing so, INFPs may end up in an unhealthy relationship, attracting narcissists and other toxic individuals who take advantage of their unconditional empathy.
10. They are both children and old souls.
INFPs can sometimes seem childlike because they tend to be optimistic and can see life through rose-colored glasses. In spite of their whimsical and free-spirited nature, INFPs are also old souls; they experience emotions intensely, have high levels of empathy, and can see many possibilities in a given situation. With these gifts come incredible insight, depth, and wisdom.
there are so many dynamics to the INFP personality. many INFP’s may interact with the world similarly yet different.
INFP’s have been called: “the mediator” “the true harmonizer” & “the authenticator”
i think all INFP’s are different. it depends on biology, natural energetic imprint, one’s upbringing, conditioning or un-conditioning, societal experiences, personal experiences, our life’s journey. etc….personally i’m a HSP, INFP, introverted ambivert, psychological-emotional empath with humans, animals, & fauna, most naturally. when i am balanced i am finely tuned. when i was naive-empowered in myself(meaning, deep personal search for authentic self subjective truth in objective truths, yet dis-empowered in my interactions with the world, naivette (which i still struggle with sometimes) as many introverts do, this can be misinterpreted or misunderstood by dissonant biologies, frequencies, people of different upbringings, conditionings, life experiences & such. the more balanced one is in their deep inherit balanced flow of ever evolving, healing, empowering, integrating, inner depth of wholeness, intricately fascinated with self awareness & self wholeness in always being & becoming in balance with inner earth intelligence & natural circadian rhythms inwardly & outwardly enhancing one’s own body, mind, soul recognition, into a state of balanced empowerment, wholeness, & harmony, in one within systemic integrations in all that is devolving & evolving in multi-dimensional resonances in a symphony of oneness towards a balanced state of harmony, while self focused internally expanding consciousness for resonance or dissonance for continual devolving & evolving in balance, can be extremely misunderstood, opposed by, or feared,(with no real reason to fear) by those who are not HSP, INFP, & who do not hold similar experiences on all realms of things. just my personal experience. ~!~
INFP’s however are very discerning, we are like cats in our environments seeking authenticity in ourselves & those around us simultaneously.
oh INFP (4% of the population is infp)
my personal answers to someone’s description about infps. (from the infp fb group i’m apart of)
there is indeed a free flow natural method to our ways, good luck figuring that out, its only for us to understand. giggles! for instance, we infuse reality (which is a mere perception) with the flow of our spirit/mental/emotional/physical creativity in unity in our ever evolving phases. if very self aware & balanced. we create. we tend to be the deepest & realest of people. one extreme to the next means “balancing the deepest full spectrum of everything” we look at things periscopicaly & microscopically simultaneously, for the “full picture”. many of us tend to stay in our balanced realm of daily activities, responsibilities, & day to day life structures. all of which we make an art form , though get sidetracked with creative pursuits that we passionately indulge in. (hence art before dishes) is my motto in my kitchen. we are deeply creative & fear losing our ingenious thoughts, emotions, & ideas, so we must write, compose, paint, create, learn, understand, until we have finished or at least have a good start on something we are doing, usually 10 or more thoughts or ideas, ideas upon ideas at once that we somehow infuse from microscopic understanding to a whole periscopic understanding to somehow infuse & create with. we are into authenticity, wholeness, harmony, fairness & balance. sometimes this means disharmony for harmony. we are creative project people, that’s what makes us natural actors too. we delve deep into every aspect of our psyches & life. we explore everything with great curiosity. we learn through doing & experience. when we finish a creative pursuit of some kind, its not like we forget about it, sometimes we do, or we infuse it into our next works of art, like what we learned about psychology we may infuse in a new philosophy. because we are ever evolving with our art, performance, exploration of life or whatever, thus we understand past, present , future & the inter-connectedness of all things on our own unique subjective levels of understanding & inner & outer journeys in life. i don’t like it when people tell me i’m a good writer. because words are just words, anyone can play with words, i spontaneously express through spirit, intellect, & emotion. so, i rather like it if someone said ” i feel what you are rawly conveying” . yes, for some reason we love left brain & right brain ways of doing everything simultaneously. we love language, we learn language really well. our sense of humor is eccentric and ingenious & we have multiple humor styles, & abstractly infuse our humor to fit or unfit the vibe.sometimes our humor is our defense mechanism against someone’s defense mechanism. sometimes we are absurd to the absurd. weird cloths, well, that’s a given, that goes along with our flow & expression of what ever we are infusing creatively or feeling. such as, when i feel off, i wear my cloths inside out. i don’t mind being different, i have had to accept that i am different. some people thought/think i may be bi- polar, that is uncomfortable that people have thought that. sure i have had pms & ptsd due to life stress, but, i’m hsp, infp for sure. as for avoiding conflict & anger, i shut down if its a man, because i have issues with angry men. however, i do not avoid contrast of thinking, feeling, & living, i try to understand or agree to disagree peacefully. i think about my ideas before sharing, & i also think about ideas while abstractly musing about ideas. on the art of effort, if its creative, then i’ll make a creative effort. that’s all there is to it. if its not creative then i make it creative. i’m more fluid & balanced than this description, it sounds like he is talking about a 100% extreme infp. infp’s are really fluid people. we flow with life, though benefit from some structure greatly on our own terms. i tend to live with my natural cycles, nature’s cycles & seasons, a breathing in & out of life. flowing through my energy within & the energy of nature. living in “deep” harmony seems chaotic to others. like why is my house a mess, when its usually immaculate? because, my energy is naturally flowing elsewhere right now. why is my balance of days & weeks of structured activities & responsibilities off, why tf am i so behind on my to do list & plans. what day is it? f. oops i was learning about astro- earth biology & prehistoric cats, then got a fantastic idea for a painting that delves into my spirit, intellect, emotional realm, & physicality about my past lives and reincarnation & the systemic nature of my whole existence in this life time through my deep spiritual creative self. giggles! many of us develop fantastic balancing skills. at least this is my infp way. some of us have to, learn to balance our spiritual, intellectual, emotional, creativity & passionate projects or what ever we are exploring, researching, learning, creating, experiencing, doing whatever with daily activities, responsibilities, practicalities, plans, & balanced structured living. otherwise we would be in our studios creating stuff until we starve to death or on some fantastical adventure in a distant land & the dishes would never get done.
difficult lessons for INFP’s to learn.
1. to realize that we are different, & to know that we don’t need to try to fit in to an extroverted world & into a society that does not honor us. we don’t need substances to overcome shyness or our reserved nature, or to be un-inhibited like extroverts. when we are tipsy from substances we become like esfp’s.
2.no matter how authentic we are at or core, we should never compromise our authenticity merely for an experience, experiment, or for different interactions. we are natural actors or mimes, so we should tone it down.
3.we must learn to overcome our natural naivete which causes us to be dis-empowered in a world where one must be discerning. we must always listen to our intuition, which, if we are naive, we don’t always do. we are naturally innocent, so we have to learn how to heal, empower, & integrate what we learn through life experiences. we must learn to protect our deeply pure spirits in healthy ways.
4. we must learn healthy life coping skills, communication techniques, & ways of adapting, because lets face it, we live in an extroverted world filled with people nothing like us.
5. we must honor our sensitivity, because not a lot of people do. we live in an in-sensitive world.
6.though we may have healthy self esteem, we can lack self-compassion. we have high expectations of ourselves, thus this is our greatest downfall.
harmonic resonance in self is an undulating process, a breathing in & out, continuously balancing oneself on all levels. i’m neither in a good or bad space, more or less a neutral space, that is the wisdom i have learned, instead of always trying to be in a “good balanced” space. the greatest & most freeing lesson. my expectations of myself were always too high, thus i would always try to be in a “good balanced” state, when in fact what i have needed was to aim for being in a “neutral balanced state”. a wise woman taught me that. thus ever since learning that i have been trying to practice that mindset, which has been difficult for me, but i am learning to flow with it. i no longer check my self- compassion at the door. i’m learning how to have plenty of self-compassion which i have lacked all of my life. i have always had self esteem, but not self-compassion.
art before dishes, why? i don’t know we are perfectly abstract.
*INFP humor* when you were really young, stuffed animals were your best friends, when your an adult real animals are your best friends.
i think its important to understand the myer briggs personality types. i love learning about all of the different & unique personality types. for if we knew more about psychology & the inter-workings of people’s personalities, perhaps there would be more harmony & understanding in humanity.
female infps are different than male infps.
i’ve posted a lot about infp type personalities on my page here, but here are some of my random personal infp idiosyncrasies:
i’m quiet & reserved. i spend a lot of time in solitude. i’m like a cat. i have light -hearted conversations with people here and there, talk on the phone once or four times a month, prefer my communications & deeper conversations face to face or through writing. i’m quiet though around closer friends that i vibe with, i can be quite lively. i’m hsp, infp, introverted ambivert. i’m the quietest person & the loudest painter, writer, dancer, or performer. i don’t say much, but on a subject of my interest i can have a field day. i scan my environment like a cat & never miss a detail. i’m highly observant. i take my time with things & thorough with my healing, evolving, learning, & creating. i have great concentration skills. i’m usually learning, creating, or experiencing many things at once. i move from one project to the next, usually working on several projects at once. my life has to be living art. i ground my dreams. i’m an idea person. sometimes i have too many ideas. i’m inventive. i’ll invent the perfect guy from my imagination & sing a song to him. i’m hesitant about sharing my more profound works of art, writing, & poetry. i’m not sure how i feel about publications, maybe when i’m older. i’m deeply private & need a lot of space, yet i’m not private about my artistic expressions. i infuse creativity in everything i do. i’m addicted to learning, experiencing, & creating. i would make a great actress. i have always loved theater, arts, music, dancing & anything creative & expressive.
the difference between a naive, dis-empowered hsp~infp & that of a wise, empowered hsp~infp is that the more naive we are, the more abstract we are. the more vulnerable we are, the more lost we are, the more anxiety we feel, the more experiments gone wrong we go through, the more learning only through experience we go through, the more trial & error we go through, from being pure, naive, wild & taken advantage of by psychopaths, the more we learn things from all angles, the more exploring we do, inside & out, for infps, we are self explorers of ourselves on all levels internally & externally in the world. we are self healers, authentic seekers of ourselves & the world, equalizers & harmonizers.
we feel misunderstood. we are eccentric & it takes some of us awhile to understand that we are different & how much so. yet we learn how to be in a mainly extroverted fast paced world. it takes us longer to heal, empower, integrate, balance, & qi-ify our existence because we are deep. it takes us awhile to find our path, narrow down what validates our existence, what truly resonates with the deepest part of ourselves. it takes us awhile to feel what lifestyle & way of living resonates best. we do an awful lot of exploring until we understand what does & doesn’t. initially we are late bloomers, yet when we bloom in consistency its magnificent & deep. we are 50% old soul & 50% child. we usually have more inner peace later in life.
being apart of the 4% of the population that is infp, 15% of the population that is hsp & 9% of the population that is rh- , makes it easy to find harmony within, yet difficult to find harmony in an extroverted fast paced world that most certainly does not portray infp/hsp/rh- energy.
~!~ my thoughts about love, i won’t settle for less than a fairy tale, if that means i may be alone forever, just as well. i don’t believe in happily ever after,i believe in harmonious endings. i believe in divine love affair/s. what is a divine love affair? long lasting relationship of full love, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically & deep intimacy. a conscious man & woman are capable of deep intimacy. love that creates together, grows together, gets wilder together, gets freeer together. divine love may last for awhile, long time, or forever, depending on how long the fullness of love is expressed. ~!~
a woman has to kiss quite a few frogs before she knows a prince when she sees one, before she knows what she truly wants. she has to be whole in herself to share whole mutual love, with a whole man.
Kahlil Gibran said ” do not take a half lover”. what he meant is, do not share with someone unless the connection is divine, full, & intimate on all levels. everything else is false.
my dream guy: looks like Colin with an Irish accent, heart of Kahlil Gibran~!~
Music, drama, painting, sculpting and writing are included in this category. An aesthetic theme is not to be confused with a little ‘flair’ for one of those enterprises. When an aesthetic theme is present, the entity is driven by his or her innate talent. A need to create manifests itself at a young age and dominates the individuals entire life. If the secondary theme is a complementary one, the entity has a long and productive career. If not, any acclaim and privilege the entity receives may lead to tragedy. The agonized existence of Vincent van Gogh reflects a tragic case of conflicting secondary theme.Emotionality
Not only the euphoric highs and the devastating lows, but every subtle nuance of emotion will be felt by these entities. Frequently, emotionality is a secondary theme of poets and artists. As such, it will indeed enhance creativity while imposing a severe challenge. The recognition of a need for balance is vital here, as is the establishment of intellectual self-control.Harmony
Balance remains all-important to the entities, and they will go to any length to maintain it. Their personal sacrifices are admirable up to a point, but the real challenge lies in the acceptance of life’s wrinkles. What can’t be changed must be adapted to and accepted.
Healer: Entities with this theme are naturally drawn to some aspect of the healing professions, physical or mental. The good they do is obvious. The only danger is that they can easily become too empathetic. It is imperative that those with a healer theme pace themselves so that they avoid burnout.Intellectuality
Here is the theme of the professional student. Charles Darwin, who used the knowledge the he acquired through intensive study to experiment, hypothesize, and eventually publish, is an excellent example of one who has perfected this theme. But since knowledge for its own sake is frequently the goal among intellectuals, there is often a danger that the knowledge that has been so ardently sought and painfully acquired will go nowhereLoner
Although often in the vanguard of society, those with the theme of Loner invariable pick occupations or situations in which they are in some way isolated. Being a psychic is a great example since it is a gift that sets you apart from others. Loners are generally happy with themselves but should watch their irritation levels when people come into their space. If each thee recognizes the presence and significance of other themes, the result will be far greater tolerance and understanding in the world and eventually peace.PatienceThe patience theme is clearly one of the most difficult paths to perfection. Those with this theme seem to desire a more rapid attainment of perfection than entities with less challenging themes. Often, they carry great amounts of guilt when they feel that they have strayed from their goal and become impatient. This attitude can lead to self-abasement, and sometimes lead to suppressed anger. These entities must be lenient with themselves, for it is difficult enough living through the circumstances they have chosen in order to express this theme.Spirituality
The Quest to find a spiritual center is all-encompassing for entities pursuing the Spirituality theme. When the full potential of this theme has been reached, these entities are far-sighted, compassionate, and magnanimous, but while still involved in the search, these entities must guard against being narrow and judgmental in their views.