the conscious man

i think its important for women to share their experiences, i believe in female writers sharing their stories for a better understanding of male and female interactions, and the perspectives of women to offer our experiences for better evolving. in acknowledging my own naivete and un-empowerment, in certain situations. i think its also good for men to read to acknowledge how many women feel. so many women are naive and don’t know how to protect themselves (they are “hesitant”, yet “open” to men, in letting men get to know them,) naive women talk themselves into thinking that the guy is a good guy, they talk him up, not listening to their intuition if something feels off about them. they are more vulnerable to say “yes” in confusion of their own inner “hesitation” , they don’t trust their instincts right away, they get confused, they don’t realize if something feels off, it usually is. this is naivete at its finest.
 *the play between the aggressive insecure man child & dis-empowered submissive woman child finding her way within herself, ever evolving nature & “inner empowerment “*
the men i have known/met were interested in me, genuine, really sweet/charming/ overly pleasing and shared their truths and perspectives with me, listened to me intently. these men were honest and forthright, they were infatuated with me, some of them really aggressive, lustful, and wanted to talk or be with me twenty-four seven. these were men children, they don’t/didn’t know themselves, they didn’t know their sacred masculine essence or potential, they had really low self esteem and hated themselves, they had the energy of needing to be validated by me, they looked up to me and worshiped me, they treated me with a pleasure seeking lustfulness, and wanting to get to know my personality also. there was respect for me and my expressions, yet, pushing my boundaries (me having to let them know where my boundaries are), aggressive energy that was off putting to me. the men child aggressiveness never felt right to me, it felt off, i felt pushed to say yes, when i wanted to say no. i was manipulated into saying yes. the aggressiveness with all of these men, is what eventually turned me off, the crossing of my boundaries after solidifying them, showed me the ever present man child needing attention, ego validation, wanting true love, (the ever so present mommy issues, coming from very different backgrounds than myself, and broken families.) feeling sorry for them, and myself becoming more distant to them, made me realize the shifts in their energy as i talked with them, a kind of insanity toward my distancing, insecurity, weirdness!, acting out, and way different than when i initially responded to their sane charm and supposed “gentlemen” nature that was appealing to begin with. to me, there is nothing more unattractive than an immature needy man with deep psychological issues. (just being honest). once i really made my boundaries clear, and realized that 1. i don’t want to know/date men at this time(i’m usually not trying to date/romance anyone) 2. i don’t want male friendships (because, what i wrote above always happens to me aka “aggressive men” ) 3. i don’t want to know men like this. then having to communicate these feelings to them as peaceful as i know how. i am polite! this is when i see who they really are, what kind of man child i am dealing with. if they go totally psycho on me (i have had some unbelievable, traumatic experiences) , i know i had followed my intuition to put my boundaries where they needed to be. then i have to forgive myself for being so naive in the first place(that’s the worst, because i’m difficult with forgiving my own naivete and have had a tendency to go “haywire” (especially when i was a lot younger). this is the experience i have had with so many men! these are the most annoying experiences. i have also had experiences with men who were so much more light hearted, even though they weren’t in their sacred divine masculine essence, they were genuine, fun, charming, and lovely men finding their way, they were aggressive toward me in a lustful and flirtatious sense (which i found off putting, although i love flirting) yet, once i made my boundaries clear(what ever boundaries i had expressed), they were respectful, and true gentlemen. i have also had an experience with a man who was in his sacred divine masculine essence, he was a spiritual teacher, father figure, best friend, and love to me. he taught me what true love from a man feels like. he worshipped and respected me spiritually/mentally/emotionally/physically and i him.
i have always had strong boundaries, quite individualistic & weary of controlling people. i have been naive in the past, & let people try to control me, yet, broke free from their controlling behaviour because of my inner independence. me, asserting my boundaries & expressing my truths, what i need or don’t need, find resonance with or don’t & expressing this, has made me seem like the controlling one, when really, i’m just hip on my boundaries & have always been self aware, unlike the ones who have tried to control me, thus they turn around and act like i’m the controlling one for having boundaries, my truths, my resonances & dissonances, what i need or don’t need in inter-personal friendships or relationships, i’m assertive most often, naturally, this can seem controlling to one who is not self aware, does not know what boundaries are, does not know what resonates or not, does not know what they need or don’t, does not know them selves at all. thus, they turn around and act like i am the controlling one. nah, they are mistaking my boundaries for a control mechanism. also, if people ask me my thoughts & opinions about things,  some direction or advice, i have always said “i would or wouldn’t do this or that, & here is why” i have never told someone what to do, i only am myself, & speak my truth, express myself & my truths, i don’t need anyone to follow those truths, or take my advice, or do what i would do in any situation. some people misunderstand this, because i’m assertive in my own self awareness, thus to someone who doesn’t even know themselves, i can seem really powerful, or overpowering to them, because they are not empowered in themselves like i am. there is a difference between having power over others & being empowered within one self. i have always been self aware through my different phases of evolving, always empowering myself, while others have tried to have power over me, because they have no idea what reaching for inner empowerment is. thus the empowered woman is more apt to attract those who are not empowered, they see my inner empowerment & want some, thus they try to have power over me, instead of seeking empowerment within themselves. i have had soooo many experiences with in this dynamic of inter-personal relations.

when i was a “naive” empath, i have tried to find closure with psychopaths, sociopaths, & narcopaths. i’m so peace loving, harmonious & like to end things peacefully, (making sure there is no hate in another’s heart,) i have tried to make sure that people don’t hate me for being a free spirit, going my own way, breaking up, or expressing my dissonance kindly. if you are a harmony loving empath DO NOT WASTE YOUR TIME! trying to find closure with a psychopath! if you think you will get peace with a total psychopath, narcopath, or sociopath you are in for a terror filled ride.

further more, the only sadness about the psychos & narcos in the past that i had was that they hated themselves so much, that they abused me. i was not sad what they said or did, (most of which was absurd) or scary, i was sad at the fact that they hated themselves, so much to try to poison me with their toxic spirit, when all i did was tell them to love their one hurts me personally, though i may find dissonance with something, that does’nt mean i’m hurt. i may be sad for their misunderstanding, misinterpretation, dissonant behavior, abuse, or absurdity. more or less, i’m sad for “them”. i may be passionate about my truth & unappreciative of dissonance. people may hurt themselves by thinking i’m hurt, or try to hurt me, when realizing i’m not hurt, thus hurt themselves more in the process. people may try to hurt me, & i may laugh, thus my laughter may cause them to turn around and act as though i tried to hurt them. that has been an interpersonal pattern in my life with some people. i’t annoying, i try to ignore such people. a natural empath has a tendency to have a heart full of light hearted love & see all of the innocence & uniqueness of most everyone, thus when a naropath or psychopath is connecting with an empath, the metal sickness starts to dissipate. so what happens when one is mentally ill? (they get worse before they get better). love is a healing potion, so when a psycho or narco is in the presence of a “self loving” empath like myself, who sees all the good in the self hating one, guess who is liking to end up abused? if the empath is not empowered & naive, they will end up with a toxic spirit, that will have to heal. only an empowered empath knows & sees the toxicity in others, & stays clear of them, & knows how to protect oneself.

the conscious man

The term conscious or evolved (awakened) man is used to describe a man who is fully aware of his thoughts, feelings, perceptions, beliefs, opinions and someone who stands elegantly in his own truth and is not afraid to acknowledge and express the depths of who he is.

A conscious man is neither afraid of his powerful masculine or feminine energy and he is constantly working to find the balance within the two.

A conscious man is aware that his masculine energy provides him with decisiveness, analytical thinking, assertiveness and pushes him to strive, and that his feminine side provides him with patience, an open heart, loving, nurturing and inner calm.

Conscious men can appear to be elusive and many women seem to attract the same types of men over and over, repeating the same mistakes, and being presented with the same lessons time and again.

The reason for this is that women can turn a blind eye to a conscious man as they are afraid that they may not live up to the same standards a conscious man lives to, or it may be that some women aren’t fully aware of how to recognise a conscious man when they meet one.

Due to a conscious man standing strong in his own truth, he can make others feel as though they have come face to face with all of their insecurities. It can feel as though the conscious man holds out a mirror so that other people see their reflections clearly and vividly.

(this does not mean projection, manipulation, or mind games) conscious women see through this)

If we do not have high self-esteem or self-worth these reflections can tempt us to run and hide from our problems rather than facing up to them and doing the necessary work and making changes for personal growth.

be able to recognise a conscious man easily, these are a few of the most common traits:

Honours the divine Goddess within the female.

Someone who takes control and responsibility for his own life.

A man who has high levels of integrity.

A conscious man will be interested in a woman who is natural.

Creates a safe space for communication.

True to his word.

Consistent, especially through difficult times.

He is not afraid of criticism.

Comfortable in his own skin.

Accepts his faults and faces up to mistakes.

He has self-love, self-worth and high self-esteem.

Listens fully and communicates clearly and honestly.

Not co-dependent.

Does not have the need or desire to control his relationship or any other person.

He has a strong masculine spirit.

In touch with his feminine side.

Does not avoid conflict.

Honest, open, loyal and trustworthy.

Connects fully and makes his partner feel unique.

Cares deeply about the planet and all of its inhabitants.

Knows how to pleasure a woman sexually without thinking of his needs.

On a journey constantly growing and learning.

A conscious man will take care of his emotional, mental, physical and spiritual health and he will likely be attracted to a person who does the same.

To to attract a conscious man it is essential to do the vital inner work needed to ensure there is progression towards fully loving ourselves and being the best version of who we are so we reach our highest potential.

A conscious man is intrigued by a woman who is comfortable to be her complete authentic, genuine self. Flaws, imperfections and the shadow self will not matter to a man who is conscious. He would rather a woman shows up entirely as she is, accepting that she is on a journey of progression, rather than trying to hide or mask herself and be someone who she is not.

The kind of woman that doesn’t give a f*ck about what people think about her is who a conscious man will find most attractive. One who won’t change, blend or compromise her self to suit or conform to societies norms or expectations. The conscious male will be attracted to a woman who sets her own guidelines, standards and moral codes. Just knowing that she is true to herself, honours herself and those around her is what a conscious man finds intoxicating and magnetising.

A conscious man won’t want a woman who commits herself to making him happy; he wants someone whose primary focus is making her self happy. He knows that no other person is responsible for his happiness other than himself. A conscious man adores being in the company of, or connected to, a woman who is radiant from the core, who is free-spirited and who sets out on adventures to explore her dreams and fantasies.

A conscious man will not criticize or put down a woman in any way for being her true, authentic self. He accepts a woman as she is and does not expect her to be full of joy at all times. A conscious man fully understands that life will offer every shade and knows that everyone has inner demons to work through.

There is a level of peace and inner calm with a conscious man and he will very rarely lose self-control or to allow his emotions to get the better of himself. He will not appreciate if someone tries to deliberately wind him up or push him to see if they can cause a reaction.

There will be no game playing with a conscious man—he will spot this type of manipulating behaviour immediately. He has no time for drama or for high maintenance people, he wants people around him that are not afraid to speak their truth, do not need to be chased and do not use trickery to gain attention.

A conscious man wants to be around a woman who is not going to judge him for being truly himself and likewise, he will not do the same in return. He wants to be free to sample all that life offers, make mistakes, learn from them and begin anew everyday.

The conscious man has high integrity and good morals and wants a female who can recognise this so that she will trust him on his path without feeling insecure or doubtful of his actions. He is a work of progression, not perfection and sees others the same and he accepts he will fall many times. However hard he hits the ground, he will get back up stronger and wiser every time. He will not appreciate someone who berates him for being true and aligning with his authentic self.

Although a conscious man wants to be accepted for who he is, he also wants to be around a woman who is not afraid to call him out on his bullsh*t. When a conscious man is not being genuine, is living within his ego or is not authentic, he will appreciate being told and also being held accountable for it. He respects a woman who pushes him to achieve his highest potential, but only when a woman does this from a place of love and not from fears or insecurities.

The conscious man knows that the right relationship will help his evolution, just as he is there to assist the female through hers and he wants someone around him where their dual focus is on growth and journeying through life side by side, whilst both on their individual paths.

When in a relationship with a conscious man it is important to leave the past firmly behind and exist in the present moment. Holding on to heavy baggage or loves now gone will prevent the relationship from deepening and a conscious man will be very aware that barriers and walls are present. The past has now passed and the only place to exist is fully in the present moment, embracing the exhilarating sensations that love, adventure and life have to offer.

Unresolved or unhealed painful memories give off a powerful negative energy and it is essential that these wounds are acknowledged and worked on. When the work is done, rather than attracting the same types of energy and relationships that brought the onslaught of old traumatic patterns, new energy and love will radiate, which will then attract a similar vibration to that which is send out.

In a relationship with a conscious man there will be no need to focus on the superficial aspects of our lives. The conscious man is interested and intrigued by what lies deep down within our souls and what is happening within our minds. It is important to stop worrying about outer appearances and judging whether we are good enough, pretty enough or worthy of attention or admiration from anyone. The most important opinion is how a woman sees and thinks about herself and her ability to accept herself entirely as she is—that is the attitude that attracts the right type of person.

Women who can fully accept themselves and also who worship and honour their inner Goddess will radiate an abundance of energy and sensuality that conscious men find very intriguing and attractive.

The conscious man has a powerful sexual energy, however, he will not use it to his advantage to seduce or gain affection or advances of women. He knows exactly how to respect and honour a woman and admires someone who also is aware of her magnetising energy. Together they will be in a place to cherish and explore the powerful, explosive and ultimately healing benefits their energetically charged connection delivers.

For any woman that wants to attract a conscious male into their lives, they must first let go of everything they have known from past relationships: all the hurt, pain and mistrust and recognise the full qualities a conscious male possesses.

A masculine warrior and a feminine Goddess can together create a harmonious, soul bonding and life-altering partnership that will be a sacred commitment to worshiping each others’ paths and journeys together, yet entirely separately as they each stand firm and live authentically in their own truth.

“There is no coming to consciousness without pain. People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own soul. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.” ~ C.G. Jung

~Aex Myles

my type of guy is a very tall broad sacred masculine with the wisdom of Bruce Lee. strong, stable, honest, kind, integrity, respectful, & very manly.



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