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conscious evolution…/…/8-stages-conscious-evolution/

this is a wonderful article, i’ve read this a long time ago. these stages of conscious evolution can be in correlation with the chakra points also, such as the lower & higher energy consciousness in each chakra. example) first chakra, if fear is present, in a phase of life, one may live fearful, if not, one may feel safe & secure in their environment. each chakra holds the lower & higher frequencies. so, if one’s vibrational frequency is lower, the energy becomes dense, & one vibrates at the lower frequencies of each chakra point, & if one’s vibrational frequency is higher, the energy becomes lighter, & one vibrates on the higher frequencies. being in a neutral wave length frequency, which is between the lower & higher is the balanced medium, & the healthiest frequency to reside in. humans are undulating frequencies, of lower & higher, meditation is to remain neutral & in harmony with oneself. being at all of these stages in harmony at once is called multi-dimensional consciousness. one can see through all lenses, yet chooses a natural consciousness to reside in such as meditation consciousness. also, as we grow & evolve on our life’s journey through our experiences we go through different phases.

stage 8, natural mystic (guru to one’s self) consciousness is a state of wholeness & harmony. its the monks state of consciousness where self awareness is at one’s highest, thus self projection to one’s highest self is infused for harmonious manifestation in one’s wholeness consciousness. the ability to feel, read, manipulate and project subtle energy into one’s higher creator self through all chakra points, spirit, mind, emotions, body is present. this is the highest space of consciousness & a natural consciousness for some, especially highly sensitive types. conscious awareness of self understands the metamorphosis of the physical through all life phases & cycles, this is especially potent for women. the emotional & etheric body clears through cycles & phases.

the healing, processing, empowering, integrating, balancing of each chakra in harmony. this is a selfless stage of consciousness, because the only attachment is to one’s temple body & the earth, the emotions are subjectively clear & articulate, with easy flow of expression & sensuality, the mind (ego) is healthy self expression of identity which pertains to one’s physical, emotional, mental, spiritual essence & inner journeying, thus (past, present, future) inner child & wise one, expressed from one’s own conscious evolution, & understanding the single journey of one’s own consciousness of self evolution. the mind is neutral & with wisdom, balanced with spirit, which is beyond wisdom & time/space reality. ~!~ 8 is the most empowered stage. when one is fully self aware, healed, integrated, & whole, one is a full conscious being. one knows that being a full conscious being is an energy that permeates all realities, for resonance or dissonance. a person in a dominant stage 1 consciousness may feel ultra inferior to a stage 8 consciousness, this can throw a stage 8 consciousness off balance if extreme passive aggressiveness is dominant toward a stage 8 consciousness. i have known & met many people on the lower consciousness levels, that i naively let throw me off my natural balance, i have known quite a few stage 5 consciousness people who think they are stage 8 mystics ( they heal, project onto others, manipulate through others instead of self ).

i’ve been in stages 4 & 6 consciousness as dominant consciousnesses in phases of my life, because of severe lower consciousness attacking, projecting, trying to manipulate, were ashamed then blamed, i was not fully integrated & was naive thus, i suffered from my own naivete from lower human consciousness. as Osho said, “if you suffer its because of you”. that was only a lesson of empowering myself more & integrating my wholeness.

a forest abounding in deer

i have a maternal instinct for myself, nature, & animals. i never had a deep maternal instinct to have a child. this is because i have not shared love deeply enough to desire such a union & procreation. i have thought, maybe i would want a child someday with the right person, yet that hasn’t happened for me, thus i have had no desire to procreate a child, i have had the opposite feeling, now, & in the past. i was very cautious with my moon cycle & or protection in relationships & experiences not to get pregnant. i have also had enough psychological birth control to wane my desire for a child. the society itself is absurd with over-population, parent-less children, ways of society & communities that are not resonant for how i would raise a child, the way certain things are set up where single mothers or starting a family is such a struggle in many ways, especially financially. i have also seen so many single mothers & couples struggle, i have seen women get pregnant with men they don’t love or visa versa & are forever connected with that man or woman, or a man who is abusive. i have seen so many superficial or immature marriages end after just a short while, leaving kids in the middle of sometimes very unhealthy situations. this has all been great birth control for me. not to mention the tenacity of what it takes to raise a child.
i’m a late bloomer in some ways, i’m still mothering myself. i’m highly sensitive Infp, so i’m sincerely particular about my life. i have narrowed my life path down to resonance & i know how to live my life & dreams at this phase of my life. finding balance & flowing with life with more inner peace & wholeness, while pursuing my passions. this also means more independence & financial stability. being whole in myself & living in resonant harmony, grounding my dreams is important. 
i feel i would be too immature for motherhood at this phase of my life, my desire is to mother myself, i myself still feel like a child sometimes, i’m still maturing. also, i married myself, i’m in a relationship with myself at this phase of my life. the desire for a relationship is not there. in future time perhaps, i may feel the desire to be in a relationship. even if i do find myself in a relationship in the future, i would never bring a child into this world unless it is a union of deep love & devotion, & something we both really wanted.
i would not raise my child like most people do.
love & security is everything to me when raising a child. having supportive people around is important. everything in my child’s upbringing would be all natural & we would have an old fashioned life with nature. limited technology if any at all. i would be a stay at home/work from home mother & dedicate my time to loving & raising my child, i would not let day cares, baby sitters & technology have energy what so ever in raising my child. reading, learning, creativity, play, gardening, adventure, travel would be my child’s activities. i would create a wholesome & creative life. i would do alternative life/academic schooling with other like minded parents. i would enroll them in khan academy & other community events worth while. i would be an unbiased teacher with my child & teach her or him to be a free thinker. i would not brain wash or sugar coat anything about the world when she or he is old enough to learn about the world. i would focus on my child’s unique energy & talents, i would flourish that. i would be a freedom loving mother & encourage independence of self. i would protect her or him from society, yet teach her or him about it, so when he/she is old enough he/she would make wise decisions. love, teaching & communication would be my disciple. healthy expression, communication & mannerisms would be important to teach my child. inter- personal relationships & life would be important to teach my child also. having a healthy, well rounded, stable, self loving, well educated child would be important to me. there would be no need to be strict, if there was nothing to be strict about. i would keep anything nasty, corrupt, & violent or dense energy away from my child. i would not have any alcohol or habit around them that may corrupt them. i would think about letting my young one have access to the world wide web when he/she is maybe seventeen. basically, i would live off the grid as much as possible in the wilderness with my family. i would also be as private as possible, i would never exploit my child via posting pictures anywhere online, children are too young to understand consent & when they got older they may not appreciate the exploitation. children have rights & they shouldn’t be violated. if i had a daughter or son, i would give her or him a deer name. one of the meanings of my name Darbi means “a forest abounding in deer” or ” deer mother “
my most prominent spirit animal
When you have the deer as spirit animal, you are highly sensitive and have a strong intuition. By affinity with this animal, you have the power to deal with challenges with grace. You master the art of being both determined and gentle in your approach. The deer totem wisdom imparts those with a special connection with this animal with the ability to be vigilant, move quickly, and trust their instincts to get out the trickiest situations.

What is the meaning of the deer totem?

The meanings associated with the deer combine both soft, gentle qualities with strength and determination:

  • Gentleness
  • Ability to move through life and obstacles with grace
  • Being in touch with inner child, innocence
  • Being sensitive and intuitive
  • Vigilance, ability to change directions quickly
  • Magical ability to regenerate, being in touch with life’s mysteries

Dear spirit animal, symbol of gentleness and heart energy

When you have the deer as spirit animal, you are able to bring gentleness and grace in every aspects of your life, even in the most challenging moments. By inspiration from the deer’s qualities, you can achieve ambitious goals and tackle difficult situation smoothly with a touch of gentleness and grace.

The deer spirit animal will remind you to be gentle with yourself and others. The grace and gentleness characteristic of this spirit animal echo the qualities brought forth when living from the heart. For example, the traditional symbol used for the heart chakra has the deer (sometimes also represented as an antelope) as emblematic animal of the energy of love and harmony with oneself and others.

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The power of the deer: Grace & determination

The deer horns are great means of defending and asserting yourself. Being gentle does not being being defenseless. With the deer as a power animal on your side, you can be strongly determined and gentle at the same time.

Deer totem wisdom and innocence

Another quality that the deer spirit animal brings to those who have a connection with it is a felt sense of their own inner gentleness, a clear connection with the innocence of their inner child. The spirit of the deer reveals to you a fresh perspective on old issues. Takes advantage of this opportunity to revise and reverse patterns of thought or behavior that no longer serve you.


A mystical totem animal, symbol of regeneration of life and heart energy

The deer’s antlers can grow back once they fall. Because of this characteristic, this animal has been revered in many traditions as a symbol of life regeneration. There’s a cloud of mystery around this ability that gives the deer a magical and mystical quality. If you have the deer as power animal, you could tap into life’s magical ability to renew itself.

A spirit guide to develop sensitivity and intuitive powers

If the deer has chosen you as your spirit or totem animal, you may be called to use or develop your sensitivity at various levels in your life. This animal powers guide you to refine your intuition and psychic abilities. You can refine your receptivity and use your senses and intuition to reach farther out.

The deer spirit and vigilance

Those with the deer as animal totem may be inclined to be constantly on the move, being on the look out for the next opportunity. By affinity with this spirit animal, you may also be watchful of your “predators”, which translate into a tendency to be sometimes overly cautious. It takes time for you to trust someone or feel safe in your environment.

You can invoke the power of the deer to guide you in getting accustomed to new surroundings and people. This spirit guide might show up in your life to warn you encourage you to trust your instinct. The deer spirit animal will also show up in your life to encourage you to take some time by yourself in a quiet environment to rest or in nature. It invites you to find rest and peace in silence.


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What Is The Meaning Of The Name Darbi?


Meaning of the name Darbi, analysis of the name Darbi and so much more… What does Darbi mean and its numerology, definition, origin, popularity and very interesting information. Please use the menu below.

Definition of Darbi: deer field(english), free person(celtic), a path, mother of deer (arabic)








Abu Dhabi is the capital and the second most populous city of the United Arab Emirates (the … Some Bedouins called the city Umm Dhabi (mother of deer),

Numerology Of The Name Darbi

In the table below, you can find the letters that the name Darbi contains and its alphabet numbers. After you sum up these numbers, it is your name numerology number.

D A R B İ Sum
4 1 18 2 9 34

Destination Number Of The Name Darbi

To calculate the destiny number of the name Darbi, please look at the table below. There is a number for each letters of the name Darbi. Add up these numbers and that’s your destiny number.

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9

d (4) + a (1) + r (9) + b (2) + i (9) = => 2+5 = 7

Destiny Number: 7. Here is your name analysis according to your destiny number.


List Of Celebrities With First Name Darbi

We looked for the celebrities whose first name is Darbi and the definitions which contains the name Darbi or similar to it. You can find the results below.

Darbi: Darbi is a surname. Notable people with the surname include:
Darbidu: Darbidu (, also Romanized as Darbīdū) is a village in Deh Chah Rural District, Poshtkuh District, Neyriz County, Fars Province, Iran.
Darbidan, Maskun: Darbidan (, also Romanized as Darbīdān) is a village in Maskun Rural District, Jebalbarez District, Jiroft County, Kerman Province, Iran.
Darbidan, Rezvan: Darbidan (, also Romanized as Darbīdān) is a village in Rezvan Rural District, Jebalbarez District, Jiroft County, Kerman Province, Iran.
Darbiduiyeh: Darbiduiyeh (, also Romanized as Darbīdū’īyeh; also known as Bīdu and Bīdū’īyeh) is a village in Jowzam Rural District, Dehaj District, Shahr-e Babak County, Kerman Province, Iran.
Darbid, Kermanshah: Darbid (, also Romanized as Dārbīd) is a village in Sar Firuzabad Rural District, Firuzabad District, Kermanshah County, Kermanshah Province, Iran.
Darbid-e Sofla: Darbid-e Sofla (, also Romanized as Dārbīd-e Soflá; also known as Dārbīd-e Pā’īn and Bīzhanvand-e Soflá) is a village in Qalayi Rural District, Firuzabad District, Selseleh County, Lorestan Province, Iran.
Darbid-e Vosta: Darbid-e Vosta (, also Romanized as Dārbīd-e Vosţá) is a village in Qalayi Rural District, Firuzabad District, Selseleh County, Lorestan Province, Iran.
Darbinyan: Darbinyan or Darbinian, (), or Tarpinian is an Armenian surname. Its meaning is equivalent to Smith ().

Darbi in Arabic Writing

If you want to see your name in Arabic calligraphy below you can find Darbi in Arabic letters.


Darbi in Chinese Characters

If you want to see your name in Chinese below you can find Darbi in Chinese letters.


Darbi in Egyptian Hieroglyphics

Here you can see the name Darbi in Hieroglyphics (ancient Egyptian)

d a r b i

How To Say Darbi in American Sign Language

This section will show you how to say the name Darbi in American Sign Language and you can meet with deaf peaple and introduce yourself.

D a r b i

types of connections

types of connections

there are three ways people connect in dating/love relationships with people.

2.physical. this type of relating is that of the young mating call. attracted to only the physical. this type of relating is superficial. it is casual sex. just for fun & pleasure.

the positives to this type of connection are learning, feeling, experiencing, pleasure, if it was a good experience.
some experiences are positive & negative
the negatives are a bad experience.
the negatives are sexually transmitted diseases, unwanted pregnancies, absorbing of another’s qi prana, such as etheric energy, even karmic energy. also, its a taking energy, & animalistic. there is no element but the physical, thus a dense low vibrational connection often leaving people feeling empty & the cycle continues swinging from one branch to another. its the monkey mind of mating. physical consciousness is almost always short term.

3.ego. this type of psychological connection is that of ego consciousness. to fill an ego. also a taking energy, to fill a lack. its psychological & of the mind. its trying to heal through another person, instead of individually healing. its trying to feel whole with another person, instead of becoming whole in oneself. its an energy of trying to fix the discrepancies in the psyche. its a psychological vampire energy, where people use each other. its the place of mind games, inferiority complexes, defense mechanisms, projections, gas lighting, power over another instead of inner empowerment. its an energy of musical chairs of egos. instead of the physical connecting, a monkey jumping from one branch to another, its the ego jumping from one branch to another. its the place of psychological manipulations & illusions. where people feel impotent or incompetent. its the place where men pit women against each other to fight over him or visa versa. a place where narcissistic triangulation occurs, like a three ring shit show. its where men have the madonna/whore complex & everyone in the ego circus plays their categorical part. its where men fight each other for the entertainment of the women pulling the strings to fill her ego, or visa versa.its where women fight for male attention or visa versa. its using sexual strategies to psychologically tinker with people’s minds. its a type of rigged circus. its where psychopaths, sociopaths, & narcissists play. the main energy of ego consciousness is “having power over others”. its the chess board of manipulations. its competition that breeds envy, possessiveness, greed, selfishness, & everything ugly .its the traveling circus or carnival towns. step right up, or step right in & you too shall become a “carni” selling elephant ears to bearded men. there is nothing attractive about being manipulated by misogynist or manipulative carnis, there is nothing attractive about letting oneself be diminished & degraded, there is nothing attractive about being played like a rag doll, there is nothing beautiful about fake elegance or fake grace to that which is ugly, you too are ugly, there is nothing attractive about pretentious innocence & scathing manipulations, there is nothing lovely in playing the ego game on a chess board, there is nothing beautiful or handsome about power plays. there is nothing attractive about mutual psychopathology, there is nothing attractive about being a carni. ego consciousness & circuses can be either short term or long term connections.

from a periscopic view, what does the ego consciousness of dating/relationships/connections look like? it looks like society. most people are conditioned by society. society of today at large remains in ego consciousness, society of today, is that of a circus.

some egos have an ego to feed. ~!~

misogynist stupid men like stupid women, because stupid women like misogynist men, stupid women perpetuate misogyny. these type of men like stupid women, because every misogynist ego has an ego to feed, & stupid women don’t offer him a challenge, thus he likes them because they like him & feed his ignoramus ego. when stupid misogynist men go for gorgeous intelligent women, & by intelligent, i mean (spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically intelligent) the intelligent gorgeous woman may give him a chance, until she realizes his lack of the intelligence she holds. thus, she knows that she can not change the conditioned, deeply ingrained misogynist mindset of men. so, she draws her boundaries & moves on. she knows she deserves an authentic man, who is whole in himself & stands in his sacred masculine essence. this may deeply wound the misogynist man child, as his ego is fragile, thus he may try to wound the intelligent gorgeous woman, because he feels inferior to her, he feels rejected, he subconsciously knows that she has what it takes to guide him to his most vital sacred masculine essence in himself, she holds the key to helping him realize his own natural ecstacy & whole presence, even if she can’t un-condition his deeply ingrained misogynistic psyche, she could take him to places in himself that are much more whole & healthy than he’s known before. yet, she won’t give him the time of day, & he knows that she deserves way better, & this destroys him inside, because its a look into his own lack. she holds the energy of wholeness & true deep soul integration within herself, thus he tries to traumatize her because she is naturally whole. sometimes he succeeds at traumatizing her. like trying to take everything from her, or trying to ruin her life. this happens to gorgeous highly intelligent whole women. they don’t have the time or energy to integrate with a half man(whether it be a friendship or otherwise), who may never be whole. thus the misogynist man child goes back to the stupid women who put up with him, & he goes back to his ego games with them, he feels an aching to know himself fully & to be whole, healed, empowered, & integrated in his soul,yet is completely self-unaware, thus he feels despair in his empty soul, & fills his time with stupid women, superficial fun, temporary satisfactions & distractions from his true essence. all the while hating & traumatizing intelligent gorgeous women. then the intelligent gorgeous women are constantly trying to protect themselves from such men, & are pissed off at stupid women who perpetuate the cycle of ignorami. not to mention, whole sacred divine masculine energy in men is very rare, thus the sacred divine feminine may end up alone, because she refuses to settle.


4. the sacred feminine & sacred masculine reside here. love. love consciousness is “awareness”. wisdom. depth. self awareness, healed, inner self empowerment, full integration, balance & wholeness in oneself. its not needing anything to fill a void or a lack. love is self perpetuating & regenerating. love is physical, emotional, mental, spiritual, intelligence. love is full elation in one self. love is neither a giving or a taking. love is a sharing. love is mutual. love consciousness is that of a dance of fairness. love consciousness is that of intelligent in tuned physical, emotional intelligence & healthy integrated ego. love consciousness needs no validation. it is a consciousness of wholeness. two whole people sharing. its an adding to ones’ life, not subtracting. love consciousness is a meeting on all levels. love consciousness is that of truly seeing & understanding. love consciousness is authentic, honest, & kind. love consciousness knows itself. it is the pure intention behind all energy. it is not aggressive like physical connection or passive aggressive like ego connection, its, assertive, straight forward, balanced & raw. its open & honest communication. its understanding the flow of the soul & journey. it is mature, ripe, loving, & deeply intimate. it is a flowing & growing of togetherness, in harmonic balance. its a deep appreciation of uniqueness. its a chemistry unmatched, it has no ego desire, is actually repulsed by ego consciousness as there is nothing sexier than deep intimacy on all levels. where physical consciousness is that of an animal, where no mind or heart reside, more of an instinctual duty, & ego consciousness derives desire through psychological games, love consciousness is desire of deep intimacy & harmonizing. its romance at its finest. people on the ego consciousness can’t fathom love consciousness, they think its a prison, where as love consciousness sees the ego consciousness as the worst prison ever. ego consciousness is a prison. love consciousness is free of un-healthy ego, thus the love shared is free flow. love is a freeing in the love consciousness, support of inner freedom. two can breathe in love consciousness because there are no restrictions. mutual understanding is present, all levels of intimacy are present, thus there is no void or lack to fill, there are no psychological games to be played out, no manipulations, defense mechanisms, projections, or un-healthy egos. only freedom & wholeness. love consciousness is more of a long term harmonizing together. love consciousness attracts other love consciousness. thus authentic, respectful, straight forward, love consciousness co-exists together in harmony.

if you find yourself in the midst of a traveling circus or carnival, you may want to ask yourself, “what am i doing here”? am i really this naive & dis-empowered to be in this space? who are these people?
or if you are a “heyoka” circus freak, you may want to ask yourself “is this really enlightening these freaks into self awareness?” “are the carnival rides making me motion sick”?

if so, this video is for you.

MBTI personality types


If only there was a program in schools to raise awareness about personality types, we would get along so much better. We would learn about ourselves, other people, be able to show more empathy & understanding to each other. MBTI types have different learning styles also.Knowing your zodiac sign can be entertaining, & helpful, but knowing your MBTI type can actually improve your life.

I have a dream that we will live by the creed that all people, introvert, ambivert,& extrovert, are created equal.


the most important things to INFPS

(authenticity) – meaning true, healed, intention & self awareness, high conscious awareness (intention is everything to us, if empowered we see right through intentions)  “healthy” ego , assertiveness, (we won’t stand for passive aggressive behavior, we also get traumatized by aggressive behaviour, we are assertive, yet empathetic enough to absorb your booshwag if dis-empowered. we can’t stand ugly unhealthy ego consciousness, you are just plain ugly to us, as we see through souls.

(boundaries & space), respect our boundaries & give us space, or you’ll be sorry. never make us feel trapped, you’ll be sorry. never think you know us, you just fucking don’t so STFU. our depth is deeper than you could ever imagine, so if you are superficial, please stay in the shallow end.  you will never understand our microscopic/periscopic viewpoint, so don’t even try. most people don’t.

(respect). respecting people for their differences & ways is important to us. respect us & our journey, our journey is NOT yours, & not for you to try to understand, judge, manipulate, & disrespect.

(sensitivity) we are sensitive. specifically to what i am writing here about authenticity, boundaries & space, respect, & values. we are sensitive to these five things.

if empowered we don’t take personal offense to things, because we’ve learned how not to absorb other people’s defense mechanisms, projections, issues,  absurdities & dissonant subjective realities. we’ve learned that our self aware, pure spirits must be protected from psychopaths, sociopaths, & naropaths. we’ve learned that we are the feeling, thinking, self-awareness, pure consciousness, in a sick world. we take a secondhand offense at the low dense unhealthy ego consciousness that is being distributed throughout the collective unconsciousness like a sick virus, & want no part of it what so ever. we’ve studied it enough to avoid it.

our values literally mean everything to us.

(values) our values are very important to us. if we are not on the same value system, please get gone.

infps usually have healthy self esteem, yet poor self compassion. we are difficult with  ourselves because we demand the best unique self aware version of our ever evolving selves through each phase in our lives.

what i have written above may not apply to every infp, as we have different upbringings & journeys.


infp sayings



quintessential female INFP’s

Emily Dickinson ( Infp)


Frida Kahlo (infp/infj


Fiona Apple (infp)





Regina Spektor (infp)



Kimbra (infp/esfp)


Erykah Badu (infp/esfp) (although she would hate to be labeled)



Katie Melua (infp)



Eva Green (infp)


Penelope Cruz (infp)


Audrey Hepburn (infp)


Audrey Tautou (infp)


Rachel Weiz (infp/infj)


Angelina Jolie ( infp/infj)



if i was an actress, i would choose roles that have apart of my spirit, personality, or artistry. i would also choose some roles (characters) that other people have projected on to me.


quintessential male infp

Johnny Depp (although he would hate being labeled)

understanding the male infp/esfp lol!



Jimi Hendrix (infp)



Kahlil Gibran (infp)

twin flames


there is only one twin flame

there are some soulmates, kindred spirits, & friends.

a twin flame is an infusing of oneness on all levels with source. its like home in each other, on the highest realm of existence. its a freeing and magical infusion, like two twin patterned psyches uniting with source. like two snowflakes that are the same. its a cosmic union, telepathy, purity, magic, deeply loving, its more intimate then any other relationship. the intimacy is so much so, because of a twin soul, that it can be surreal, and if one or both is slow to the intimacy and infusing it can be overwhelming. twin flames feel deeply that they have known each other and loved each other through lifetimes.
(twin flames are that of sameness in soul psyches and  a replica of the opposite sex)

soulmates are an easy dance also, a flowing of togetherness,with source and earth, a certain oneness & inner sight, merging frequencies with ease, deep understanding, tenderness, vibrating on all levels together, there is an innocence & protection with soulmates.
(soulmates are complimentary)

kindred spirits are that of innocence. they are most often times opposite yet complimentary. there is a deep respect between them. there are glimpses of cosmic source’s magic between the two. they grow through each other with ease. kindred spirits usually bond together and form a successful union, they co-create well together.
(kindred spirits are opposite yet complimentary)

on love

my love is spiritual/ its unconditional/ its friendship. love is is inner freedom. if that is not reciprocated, then i’m done, i’m free of you. i’ve always been light hearted, it’s others that have put their heavy heart upon mine causing me to suffer or suffocate. (empath turmoil)

love in its purest form is sharing joy, it asks nothing in return, it expects nothing. love is a spiritual phenomenon. lust is the physical. ego is the psychological. love is the spiritual. Osho. ~*~

a woman’s love is freedom, its the men that suffer, thus causing women to suffer. -Osho

Osho on love


Many times I say learn the art of love, but what I really mean is: Learn the art of removing all that hinders love.  It is a negative process.  It is like digging a well:  You go on removing many layers of earth, stones, rocks, and then suddenly there is water.  The water was always there; it was an undercurrent.  Now you have removed all the barriers, the water is available.  So is love: Love is the undercurrent of your being.  It is already flowing, but there are many rocks, many layers of earth to be removed.” ~ Osho


“Love has to be of the quality that gives freedom, not new chains for you; a love that gives you wings and supports you to fly as high as possible.” ~ Osho


“I say to you, you are absolutely free, unconditionally free.  Don’t avoid the responsibility; avoiding is not going to help.  The sooner you accept it the better, because immediately you can start creating yourself.  And the moment you create yourself great joy arises, and when you have completed yourself, the way you wanted to, there is immense contentment, just as when a painter finishes his painting, the last touch, and a great contentment arises in his heart.  A job well done brings great peace.  One feels that one has participated with the whole.” ~ Osho


“In real love there is no relationship, because there are not two persons to be related to.  In real love there is only love, a flowering, a fragrance, a melting, a merging.  Only in egoistic love are there two persons, the lover and the loved.  And whenever there is the lover and the loved, love disappears.  Whenever there is love, the lover and the beloved both disappear into love.” ~ Osho


“When you don’t need a person at all, when you are totally sufficient unto yourself, when you can be alone and tremendously happy and ecstatic, then love is possible.  But then, too, you cannot be certain whether the other’s love is real or not – you can be certain about only one thing: whether your love is real.  How can you be certain about the other?  But then there is no need.  This continuous anxiety about whether the other’s love is real or not simply shows one thing: that your love is not real.  Otherwise, who bothers?  Why be worried about it?  Enjoy it while it lasts, be together while you can be together!  It is a fiction, but you need fiction.” ~ Osho


“Unless meditation is achieved, love remains a misery.  Once you have learned how to live alone, once you have learned how to enjoy your simple existence, for no reason at all, then there is a possibility of solving the second, more complicated problem of two persons being together.  Only two meditators can live in love – and then love will not be a koan.  But then it will not be a relationship, either, in the sense that you understand it.  It will be simply a state of love, not a state of relationship.” ~ Osho


“When you say to a woman or a man, ‘I love you,’ you are simply saying, ‘I cannot be deceived by your body, I have seen you.  Your body may become old but I have seen you, the bodiless you.  I have seen your innermost core, the core that is divine.’  Liking is superficial.  Love penetrates and goes to the very core of the person, touches the very soul of the person.” ~ Osho


“Love is a ladder.  It starts with one person, it ends with the totality.  Love is the beginning, God is the end.  To be afraid of love, to be afraid of the growing pains of love, is to remain enclosed in a dark cell.  Modern man is living in a dark cell.  It is narcissistic – narcissism is the greatest obsession of the modern mind.  And then there are problems, which are meaningless.  There are problems that are creative because they lead you to higher awareness.  There are problems that lead you nowhere; they simply keep you tethered, they simply keep you in your old mess.  Love creates problems.  You can avoid those problems by avoiding love – but those are very essential problems!  They have to be faced, encountered; they have to be lived and gone through and gone beyond.  And to go beyond, the way is through.  Love is the only real thing worth doing.  All else is secondary.  If it helps love, it is good.  All else is just a means, love is the end.  So whatsover the pain, go into love.” ~ Osho


“Forget relationships and learn how to relate.  Once you are in a relationship you start taking each other for granted – that’s what destroys all love affairs.  The woman thinks she knows the man, the man thinks he knows the woman.  Nobody knows either!  It is impossible to know the other, the other remains a mystery.  And to take the other for granted is insulting, disrespectful.  To think that you know your wife is very, very ungrateful.  How can you know the woman? How can you know the man? They are processes, they are not things.  The woman that you knew yesterday is not there today.  So much water has gone down the Ganges; she is somebody else, totally different.  Relate again, start again, don’t take it for granted.  And the man that you slept with last night, look at his face again in the morning.  He is no more the same person, so much has changed.  So much, incalculably much has changed.  That is the difference between a thing and a person.  The furniture in the room is the same, but the man and the woman, they are no more the same.  Explore again, start again.  That’s what I mean by relating.” ~ Osho


“Remain continuously on a honeymoon.  Go on searching and seeking each other, finding new ways of loving each other, finding new ways of being with each other.  And each person is such an infinite mystery, inexhaustible, unfathomable, that it is not possible that you can ever say, ‘I have known her,’ or, ‘I have known him.’  At the most you can say, ‘I have tried my best, but the mystery remains a mystery.’  In fact the more you know, the more mysterious the other becomes.  Then love is a constant adventure.” ~ Osho


“Love knows no boundaries.  Love cannot be jealous, because love cannot possess.  It is ugly, the very idea that you possess somebody because you love.  You possess somebody – it means you have killed somebody and turned him into a commodity.   Only things can be possessed.  Love gives freedom.  Love is freedom.” ~ Osho


“If you love a person and live the whole life with him or with her, a great intimacy will grow and love will have deeper and deeper revelations to make to you.  It is not possible if you go on changing partners very often.  It is as if you go on changing a tree from one place to another, then another; then it never grows roots anywhere.  To grow roots, a tree needs to remain in one place.  Then it goes deeper; then it becomes stronger.  Intimacy is good, and to remain in one commitment is beautiful, but the basic necessity is love.  If a tree is rooted in a place where there are only rocks and they are killing the tree, then it is better to remove it.  Then don’t insist that it should remain in the one place.  Remain true to life – remove the tree, because now it is going against life.” ~ Osho


“People should be taught that nobody can love twenty-four hours a day; rest periods are needed.  And nobody can love on order.  Love is a spontaneous phenomenon.  Whenever it happens, it happens, and whenever it doesn’t happen it doesn’t happen.  Nothing can be done about it.  If you do anything, you will create a pseudo phenomenon, an acting.  Real lovers, intelligent lovers, will make each other alert to the phenomenon:  ‘When I want to be alone that does not mean that I am rejecting you.  In fact, it is because of your love that you have made it possible for me to be alone.’  And if your woman wants to be left alone for one night, for a few days, you will not feel hurt.  You will not say that you have been rejected, that your love has not been received and welcomed.  You will respect her decision to be alone for a few days.  In fact, you will be happy!  Your love was so much that she is feeling empty; now she needs rest to become full again.  This is intelligence.” ~ Osho

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Love, Freedom, Aloneness - The Koan of Relationships

Book Overview: In today’s world, freedom is our basic condition, and until we learn to live with that freedom, and learn to live by ourselves and with ourselves, we are denying ourselves the possibility of finding love and happiness with someone else.  Love can only happen through freedom and in conjunction with a deep respect for ourselves and the other. Is it possible to be alone and not lonely? Where are the boundaries that define “lust” versus “love”…and can lust ever grow into love? In Love, Freedom, Aloneness you will find unique, radical, and intelligent perspectives on these and other essential questions. In our post-ideological world, where old moralities are out of date, we have a golden opportunity to redefine and revitalize the very foundations of our lives. We have the chance to start afresh with ourselves, our relationships to others, and to find fulfillment and success for the individual and for society as a whole.